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I am looking for volunteers, especially high school and university students who want to learn from me and help me with my work. S. Hein
I feel weak. Emotionally fragile. Too weak to do more with this than put it here.
___ says:
ohh guess what
___ says:
they brought drug dogs into our school today b/c 4/20 is this
weekend, and kids always sell pot at school like the week b4
___ says:
soooo many ppl got busted
That is from a teen in the USA. (From the other day.)
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I was chatting with someone else. She said "How do you not understand that?" She was joking but I was too weak and fragile at that moment. She didn't know it. But I had to disconnect. Maybe she will understand when she reads this. When she was 14 she might have said "Are you okay? Or something to check on how I was feeling. She probably suspects that it hurt me, but now she is too old to ask about it. She has had to disconnect from her feelings for too long. Only happy, productive, patriotic feelings are allowed. Depressed people are not productive, so let them kill themselves. That seems to be the mentality of a lot of people. In capitalist or communist countries, might I say? Depressed people definitely don't make good soldiers or salespeople. So we don't need them. Let them kill themselves. We are better off without them.
That's how it feels to me sometimes, so I can understand how teenagers feel when their parents only scream at them about their grades. And keeping the house clean etc. And other things which aren't important to our survival as a species. Why not just pass a new law and make it illegal to be depressed or even to be sad? Why not put everyone in jail who complains? Or expresses any discontent? Or who refuses to sit in a chair and be talked to for hours in schools or universities? Or who shows any sign of independent thinking or who questions anything? I might have to stop reporting on what is happening in the USA, for example. It is too depressing for me. I might get arrested for being depressed or for being a threat to national security. Afer all if teenagers and university students stopped sitting obediently in chairs and stopped being afraid of not getting pieces of paper called degrees and diplomas, the whole system might actually fall apart!
If you are interested in working for me in Europe, (currently in Romania) please write to me. Steve
This site is a place where I try to give people useful, important information. It contains information about emotional intelligence, some tools and resources, and some new ideas.
I was born and raised in the USA but I now I feel embarrassed, ashamed, and afraid of what is happening there. There are still encouraging things happening, but for me at least, those are outnumbered by the discouraging ones right now. I grew up believing that the USA a model of freedom and democracy in the world, which I still believe it once was, but is no longer. I would like to see it become that once again. I would like to see it the America use its power only to help -- not to hurt, kill and destroy. I would like to see the USA become the leaders in non lethal and non destructive weapons, for example, as well as the leaders in mediation and non-violent conflict resolution. I would like to see the USA and all Americans make friends, not enemies. As I travel around the world I would like to once again feel proud when people ask me where I am from and I say "the United States".
I am now 50 years old. I first began to travel internationally at the age of 25. I have been on every continent and have visited schools in many countries. I am frequently frightened and or depressed by what I have seen.
This site is also for teenagers around the world who feel pain when they see what is happening in the world. It is for those who feel pain and fear in their own homes and schools, neither of which they are free to simply walk out of, even if they live in countries which boast of being free.
It is for the teenagers who are cutting and hurting themselves because they are in so much emotional pain from abuses of all kinds, particularly emotional and psychological from the confusing, frightening and invalidating environments they have no choice but to either try to survive in, or to take their own lives as a way of stopping the pain. This site offers them a new way to look at themselves, their society, with its belifs, religions, and schools. It offers them a new way to look at the world, and offers them a way to participate in making it better.
It acknowledges the pain and problems in the world, but offers a new direction. It offers them encouragement and emotional support. It let's them know they are not alone in their pain and frustration. It let's them know they are not crazy and they do not have "mental disorders". They just lack a sane, safe, emotionally healthy place in which to live.
This site is helping create a vision of a world which is more livable for them, more sustainable, more humane.
The site is also for teachers, educators, psychologists, attorneys, social workers and school counselors who want resources to help people develop their emotional intelligence and practical skills. It is especially for those who do not accept the status quo as being the best we can do. My writing is sometimes very non-politically correct and it may offend you or challenge some of your beliefs, but please try to take everything I say with a grain of salt and realize my strong words come from my frustration and pain. Please try to take what you can and apply it to help yourself and others. In the future I intend to separate my editorial writing from the resources section of the site, but right now it is all mixed together. If you would like to volunteer to help or if you have any constructive criticism, please let me know by using this link.
S. Hein
EQI site number one on "Respect"
I don't usually brag a lot but I am pretty proud to find out that my page on respect has reached number one on google. Today when I checked it was also number one on emotional abuse.
Here are more google rankings of things from my site. The file is a bit old but it gives you an idea.
S. Hein
Jan 14, 2008
I am planning to be in India soon and am looking for someone to work with as a business partner in customer service and EI training. Contact me if you are interested. Steve
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Today's page is dedicated to Ashley Casale for her walk across the USA for Peace.
Today's Dedication is to 25 year old Paul Pritchard of Canada who sued the Canadian Police for the return of his video of how they killed a man with their taser
Today's dedication is to the parents of Vanessa Ilieva. They have given her the freedom and support to develop her natural talents while remaining happy and self confident.
Recently I fell in love. Now I am trying to climb out of it with one black eye, two broken legs and one broken arm. S. Hein Feb 13, 2008
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