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I am not a criminal. 3/28/2003

I had a "meeting" a couple days ago with somebody assigned by the court. (after the last incident when I left.) I'm not sure if he was a probabtion officer or not. I never really got a title. He just said,"I'm assigned to your case."

He was really rude and snotty. Actyally, he reminded me of my father a bit.


The first thing he says is,"I'm not going to treat you like a criminal, if you treat me with respect."


What the F*ck. I am not a f*cking criminal. Maybe he deals with a lot of criminals, but, I am not one.


He also mentions that in my file, it says that I had been in ******** for shoplifting. He was very rude about it. "Is that a problem with you? Do you have a compultion or a strong need to steal?" he asked me.


What the F*CK. I am not a criminal. He has no idea why I "stole." If he had, he might have looked at me differently. Also, if he studied my case more, he would have realized that the only reason I was placed in ******* was because they didn't have any place else to put me. Group homes, foster homes are hard to get into sometimes, and, with that "criminal" offence of shop lifting, they thought, "Hey, we can just put her in here until something else comes along."


So, whatever. I feel so ashamed when people find out that I was "juvi." They don't know anything about me. I'm not a bad person. I don't get into trouble.


He started asking me more things making me sound like I am some crazy person or a criminal. "Why aren't you in school? I talked to your former principal, and she siad you got into a fight. THen, your Aunt pulled you out for homeschooling."


Yes, I got into a fight. But, again, he knows nothing about what happened with that girl. She was pushing me around and I was defending myself. It makes me a criminal. He was turning all these situations around, and making me look like I should be locked up or something...like I was a danger to society.


He asked if I wanted to run away again. He asked me why I ran away in the first place. I siad that I "didn't know." and he rolled his eyes at me. That little pric. F*ck him.


Before he left, he said that he would be on my cse and be checking in often. He said that if I "Should leave without telling anybody again," I could be removed from my AUnt's and placed in either a group home or back to *******.


What did I do wrong. I am almost crying now. Actually, tears are rolling down my cheeks a bit at the very thought of going back there. I feel so ashamed, even though I know I am not a bad person.


I hate my father. I hate my mother. I wouldn't be in this mess if it wasn't for them...


I would have had ran away. Therefor, wouldn't have stolen, thefeofr, wouldn't have been in ****** in the first place.


I am not a bad person. I really am not. THe few illegal things I"ve done in my life I have done for a reason. Even when I ***********.


My Aunt asked how it went. I couldn't tell her the truth.


I feel so ashamed. Why isn't anyone punishing my father. He didn't get jack sh*t. He didn't get in trouble hardly at all, and here I am, being treated like a criminal or a deliquent. I hate the F*cker.



Kali


I am changing my name. Is that hard. I want a new name so that I can be a new person...maybe, with a new name, I can make a new record. Will that work?


If anybody has an idea of a name,let me know.




shame 3/31/2003

Things are okay. STill no more word for mom. I've been having trouble sleeping again since she last calledif she would ever get back together with "dad." . Over in my head, I keep going over what I would say to her if I see or talk to her again. Would she feel sympathy or guilt? Or, would she feel resentful and ashamed. I wonder wonder if she knows. How could she not? Then again, I doubt she does. I hate unanswered questions.


My AUnt doesn'te ven know everything. SHe knows about dad, but, not really about his friends, or, to the extent that dad hurt me. she doesn't know the whole truth, and, why tell her? why tell anybody?


I wont tell my counsoler either. WHy keep on bringing up the past?


My counsolor asked me how I felt about my mom calling. I said that I didn't know.


she asked me if I was angry at my mom.


I said that I didn't know.


SHe asked me if I thought my mom knew.


I didn't asnwer.


She asked how I was feeling when she asked that question.


I walked out of her office and went into the bathroom. I went to the mirror and just stared at myself, hating myself and telling myself that she was making fun of me...my face was sort of turning red, humilitated to even look into my own face. shamed to even see myself and what my body is. ashamed that people think i am pretty, ashamed of what i've done, ashamed to be looking at my self in the mirror, ashamed at seeing myself and knowing what i did.


it's so hard sometimes.


then i felt like such a fool for walking out, that, i was scared to use that bathroom. scared that she would ask why i walked out. was in the bathroom for several minuets when she knocked on the door to ask if i was okay. i said yes, that i just had to go to the bathroom really bad.


ashamed of saying the word "bathroom"


i came out. i knew my face must be burning red because i felt it. my dad once said that when your face turns red in shame, it because you know that you've done something wrong.


have i?


everybody says that i haven't. says that i was powerless, young. but, the fact is, i stopped yelling. i didn't try to tell, id stopped saying no, i knew it was wrong but...


i can't even say the rest. it is to shaming. even as i wriote this my face is burning red. guilt or shame or neither?


i don't know why i write it here. i guess because i need to tell somebody, but, saying this stuff to a person only causes my face to turn red and i can't.


if he did do something wrong, then why didn't he get in trouble, and why am i the one getting in trouble.


i don't know who to believe.


them, him, me.


Kali...i told my aunt that i wanted to change my name, and she siad,"It's not that easy."


WHy not?




xxxxxx



living in the moment and doing great! 7/2/2003

Wow...it's been a long time since I've written in here.

I've been on vacation with My Aunt. Haha, I am using someone elses computer right now.


I have been having lots of fun...meeting family I didn't know that I had.


Most of my family is great, but, a couple of them seem to not like me...they probably think I'm white trash or something because of my parents.


I don't care. Whatever. My Aunt tells me to just ignore them, but, it does hurt. It really does.


Just think. A year ago...I had no one and no place...


Now, I'm hearing...having a great time...with family????


Wow.


I am happy. For now. I hope things keep going good.


Oh, and remember that cool counsolor I wrote about. She agreed to tutor me...she agreed to do it privaly and have my aunt pay a small amount...not even a lot. She was so cool. different. Sometiems, we would just talk and hang out durring are "classes" if you want to call them that...


And, sh e lets me learn what I want...yeah, she has to cover certain things but it doensn't take upall the time.


Things are looking up for me.


I am beggining to just forget about the past, my mom and father. WHy fret over them when I am doing so well now. Isn't NOW what counts most???


Kali



update...doing well 5/31/2003

Doing better now that school is out. I felt like blowing my brains out for awhile, but, I feel better now that my AUnt promises that she will find a way so that I don't have to go back there next semester. Yay. She says that if she has to, she will sell one of her old cars that she doens't use anymore inorder to pay for a tutor. THat woudl make me feel bad if she has to do that, but, she insists. She said, though, that she might be able to afford it without selling the car anyhow.

SOmetimes I feel like such a big expense. It's amazing. She is guidence counsolor, yet, is not paid nearly well enough. No, she's not poor. But, she doesn't have nearly the amount of money she works for. haha, she has to deal with winey teenage brats like me ALL day. She likes her job, though...well, she says she doens't like doing schedualing much, but, hey, can't have it all.


We're planning a little trip over the summer. (We're staying away from Toronto!!!) Haha, we are going to go out to New York City and maybe to Disney World with some cousins that I didn't even know I have!!!!!! Haha, that's exciting. I've never really been anywhere! Also, it will be interesting to find out what my cousins are like. One of them is only a year older than me. I hope she's nice. And I hope she hasn't heard a lot about me. I feel like the "black sheep" sometimes.


Oh, and I am done with those meetings with that pric. I finallyl told my AUnt abouit what he was saying. I would hope he woudl get fired, but no. THey just decided to change my case to someone else. Now, I have this nice woman who actually treats me like a person. Actually, she acts moe like a counsolor and she tells me that it was completely rediculous what the other guys said. She said there was no way they would remove me from my Aunts...only if I show signs of harming myself or someone else she said. I felt so confortable with her. MOre confortable than any one else...haha, maybe even my aunt. I told her all about my fahter. It was the first time I really talked about it. I told hera bout my mom, dare, and my aunt. she says that i should only have to meet with her maybe until the end of the summer and then will probably be "clean." Haha, how cool is this. She said that if I felt like running away or something, I coudl call and talk to her, and she wouldn't try to report me. She also gave me some addresses and phone numbers around montreal of places I could go if I "suddenly felt the urge to leave."


I asked her why and she said that if I was determined to run again, i would no matter what anybody said and sh e said she would rather have me be in a safe place than on the street corner sleeping.


I really like her!!! Haha, I woudl love to keep seeing her even after the summber, but, i think i would have to get in trouble to have that happeneed!


Anyway, I have to get ready to go. Aunt and I arew going to go rent some movies and do nothing all day. OH, and go to the library to return all the books I have and maybe get some more. My AUnt called me a "Book worm" I thought that was funny. It's funt o loose yourself in books,t hough. It's a great way to escape everything you are feeling and thinking. and, i don't like tv much.


Kali



Back to public school...miserable and depresse 5/14/2003

can't sleep again. my aunt would kill me if she new i was on the net this late, but oh well.

so much has been going on lately. i'm now back in public school, which, i hate more than anything!


i had such a cool tutor, too. what happened, is, the school refused to pay her. my aunt can't really afford it this year. the school said that my aunt can't homeschool me because i can't be left home alone all day of some bs like that and they tried to call child protective services on my aunt because she was leaving me along durring the day. that damn as shole guy, whos like my probatin officer, told the school and cps. it makes me mad.


so now, because i don't have anywhere else to go durring the day, i have to go to school. i hate it. I hate it. I hate it. I'm so depressed and miserable and want to cry all the time. luckily, the years almost done, though.


the principal keeps telling me that i have too "keep in line." He says that he "knows about my history and wont put up with it." he doesn't even know me.


i hate it there. i think i am going to be sick tomorrow so i don't have to go.


why can't I be home alone, anyway? I took care of myself for years. My aunt says next year she will "work it out" so I don't have to go back, but,r ight now, her hands are legallyl tied if she wants to keep me.


If I don't go, mr. as*hole said he could take me out of my aunts.


life sucks sometimes. sometimes,i think, i was happier living on my old...even if it was cold sometimes and hungry...


I know what i'll do. Since the people at school think I am "so bad" already, I will go to school. I was cause troubel and get suspended. lol. yeah. i'll be what they think i am anyway.


i hate this.


i don't know what to do. now, on top of everything, i'm scared to make a wrong move for fear of being placed in some foster home or group home and away from my aunt.





Sorry 5/2/2003

im alive. Having some problems, but, I am okay. Been to busy with appointments, ect, to go online much. Miss writing in here. I'll try to catch up on what's been going on later.

Gotta go. Aunt and I are going to catch a movie and get something to eat.


Kali





a cool tutor! 4/12/2003

reading some of the books that steve suggested. They are very informitive. Interesting. Some of the parts are a bit hard to understand, but, once I re-read them a few times, they make much more sence. Be easy on me, I haven't had the chance to do much reading until now. a Tutor ( my Aunt hired one to come in a couple times a week, the days my AUnt can't do it ) says she can't believe how far along I am and haven't been in school for as long as I haven't. I still feel like I am behind with people...then again...ahead in some ways. Anyway, she is pretty cool. SHe isn't that old. SHe can't be more than 25. Probably younger. The first day she was here, she intimidated me by making me think there was going to be so much work. But, the second time she came, we basically talked the entire time! Im not kidding! lol, the last 15 minuets of our "time" she said,"okay, lets get to work." I enjoy her company, though. I can talk to her, but, I can talk about "Light" things. LIke, dumb stuff that teenagers would normally talk about. I hate to always talk about serious stuff, and when people want to talk to me, that's all they ever want to talk about.

I showed her the books I was reading and she loved the selection, ---to UNDERSTANDINGABUSE


I have to meet with that jerk again next week. I really don't want to see him again. He made me feel like a complete criminal, loser the last time I had a "MEETING" with him. I still havne't told my Aunt the things that he said, but, if hes still a jerk this time, I might. He's court appointed, though so there might not be alot that my aunt can do to help me.I serioulsy don't understand why IH ave to meet with him anyway. What have I done that is really THAT wrong? Who knows.


Well, that's about all for now. Gotta run.


P.s Wait, the WIERDEST THING Happened earlier today. I was at the mall wiith my Aunt when this woman approached me. SHe was just sort of looking at me for a few minuets and then she gave me "her" card. SHe asked me if I ever though tof getting into modaling. I just sort of laughed. I guess I have a warped view of my "image." SHe said that if I ever wanted to make some money, to call her and she could find some work for me.


I'm not going to do it, though. It was a nice complement, but, I woudl be way to self concious to do somethinglike that and to think of a bunch of people looking at my body. It was strange, though, that she just approached me like that out of no where!!!!!


Time for bed.


Kali

 


nothing much 4/1/2003

I don't know why, but I am SO tired today. I did get up until about 10 AM...I ate, did a little "homework", then, I took a three hour nap! I got up, ate lunch, read for a little while. Now, I am still so tired. I am abnormally tired today! Yawn. I feel bad because I didn't even take destiny out for a walk today, and normally I love takeing walks with her to the park.Oh well.

I can't believe it is already April. I can't believe how far I have come since last time this year. Where was I this time this year? I'm lucky.



I hear my Aunt calling me. I have to go.


lol, I Had the best spagetti I have ever had today. My Aunt made it. I don't know what she did, but, that too, was abnormally good! lol...



Kali


guitar 7/12/2003

I've been into my guitar lately...throwing myself at it. I am trying to write another song.

I have been inspired by Tori Amos lately. Not only does she have an amazing voice...does cover's of Kurt Cobains "Teen Spirit," But, she is also founder of R.A.I.N.


Her music is amazing.



should I join a band? I am getting really good at guitar. Better htan I thought I coudl ever be!


I am thinking of going to old montreal and playing there. I've seen people playing out there...maybe I can see a few old friends too. They are probably wondering what happened to me!


lalalalla.


music is saving my life here. I don't know what I would do without it.


My Aunt says I should go to a music school. SHe thinks I am that good. I"m not sure. I think I am okay, but, she always seems to think more of me than myself.


anyway, gotta go.



---if anybody out there happens to know about any openings for a guitar player in the montreal area, let me know? my email is kalilane2000@yahoo.com


I will do some looking myself probably.



missing 7/12/2003

i just emailed someone from tod. he seems sad


Im feeling kind of sad tonight.


mostly missing people.


miss my mom...lol, why????

miss my dad....A bigger why!?!?!?

Miss Dare...wonder if he's alive and doing well...

Miss Mike...we haven't talked since he stared collage again

Miss...me, in some ways. Miss not having to worry about what people thought...

Miss just being able to do what I want, go where I want.

hate having to feel as though I have to get "dressed up" when we go out.

I like to where jeans and a tshirt and throw my hair up in a bun. lol.

Hate having to "prove people that Im not a terrbal person."


Anyway,imtired..gonna try to sleep now befor my aunt catches me online.


I'M BACK! 7/7/2003

well. I am home. We got back about 11 PM today. It's now 1:07. My Aunt just went to bed, but, since I slept all the way home, I am not tired.

It feels good to be home...Home...I love that word.


SO, I had so much fun!!! New York City was great!!! We walked around the city, saw a play, met some of my family. Haha, my Aunt bought me a bunch of clothes. I told her not too, but, she insisted. She said she is making up for lost time. I don't really need clothes, though...to make up for lost time. I'm just happy to have HER! But, I guess shopping was fun. She's spoiling me!


I felt bad though, in NYC, whenever I Saw homeless people. IT didn't feel right that my Aunt was buying me all these clothes and a block away, there were people on the streets begging for money. I know what that is like. Even though My Aunt told me not too, I gave probably about 40 dollars away all together. I think she understood, though. I wish I could take them all home with me to my aunts.


Anyway, we're home. Yay. My Aunt is going to some conference/lecture on child hood development...it's one of those conferences for the human service field or something. I'm not sure if I am going. She said that I might stay with one of her friends, but, she also said IM ight be able to go. I hope I can go cus I don't kow how confortable I would feel staying with one of her friends. Actually, I would love to actually attend the conference. Those topics interest me! I could concider part of my home schooling haha.


I read a few books on the way here. A person here online suggested reading 1984. I actually had to read that one twice because the firt time I didn't catch everything. anyway, i liked that one so much, i looked for other books by the same author. i just got done reading "Animal Farm." I am going to read that again, too, though, becuase I dont think I caught everything. Im kind of ashamed to admit it but I guess i am kind of behind on my reading level...since i wasn't in school for such a long time...but I am trying...that's why, if i don't get it the first time, i will read the entire thing over.


yeah, i have an oppointment with my counsolor tues. I believe. I haven't seen her in forever since i've been gone!


ANYWAY, GONNA TRY TO GO TO BED SO THAT I DON'T SLEEP ALL DAY TOMORROW.


KALI


my picture... 7/12/2003

I had my picture here. then i thought about it and maybe it's not a good idea. What if somebody starts stocking me or something, lol.

do any of you have photo's on here and does it make you nervous?

 


mom 7/16/2003

I wonder if this is how my mom felt when she left...

god, i'm so lonely sometimes that I could cry...right now, i feel so lonely. maybe it was triggered by mike telling me that he had feelings for me. i just miss my parents sometimes...even for what they were. it's so lonely sometimes inside of me...feels like a whole...listen to this song over and over...just hoping that my mom feels this way, or even my dad feels this way.


Well I want you to notice

To notice when I'm not around

I know your eyes see straight through me

And speak to me without a sound


And I want to hold you

Protect you from all the things I've already endured

And I want to show you

To show you all of the things that this life has in store for you

I'll always love you

The way a father sould love his daughter


When I walked out this morning

I cried as I walked to the door

I cried about how long I'd be away

I cried about leaving you alone


And I want to hold you

Protect you from all the things I've already endured

And I want to show you

To show you all of the things that this life has in store for you

I'll always love you

The way a father sould love his daughter


Sweet Zoe Jane

Sweet Zoe Jane


So I wanted to say this

'cause I wouldn't know where to begin

To explain to you what I have been through

To explain where your daddy has been


And I want to hold you

Protect you from all the things I've already endured

And I want to show you

To show you all of the things that this life has in store for you

I'll always love you

The way a father sould love his daughter


Sweet Zoe Jane

Sweet Zoe Jane



mike again. 7/31/2003

I wanted to take a break from the net. I was spending way to much time on here and starting to feel kind of bored...which leads to feeling sad. haha, well, in my crazy way anyway.

Well, I'm not sure what's going on with mike and i. I'm confused and I think he is even more confused. We've been talknig on the phone nearly every day since he called that one time.


Well, the other day, he called and told me that his roomy had three tickets to a marilyn manson consert in montreal. He said that he wanted me to go with him...he said we could be the only two "non gothic" people there. I decided to go, even though the road that it is on gives me very painful memories of when I used to spend a considerable amount of time there. Lots and LOTS of homeless people, sex stores all over, prostitues at night, drugs, ect. Anyway, I said that I would go, even though I'm not a HUGE fan of Manson. He's okay. I saw an interview with him once, and, he seems down to earth and intelligent. my aunt had me watch bowling for colombine with her and when these people asked manson what he would tell the kids who shot up colombine if he could, manson said,"I wouldn't TELL them anything. I would let them tell me how they feel and what they are going through."


Best answer.


Anyway, the concert was...GREAT. We managed to sneak our way up to the front...well, close to the front. I kept almost getting pushed around by moshing, so, Mike had his arms around my waste the entire time to make sure I was thrown into a moshing pit where I might get hurt. I don't know if I like him. A part of me really does. He's so sweet and polite and kind...and he isn't like all those guys my age who are ignorant and jerks. But, I am still kind of scared. Why?


Anyway, After the show, Mike and I got in his car and drove around the city for awhile. Montreal is beautiful at night. We pulled over and talked for awhile. He said something agani about how much he likes me. It kind of makes me feel uncomfortable. NOt beacuse it's him...but his intesity scares me. I ugess I'm just scared of being hurt.

He went on to say that he wishes that I was older even though he felt like I was older and I do look older...soi people say.

Anyway, who knows.

that's what I been up too...Mike. haha....

Mike, if you read this, I hope you don't feel offended by6 any iof this. I told you before you came here that I write how I really feel.

Kali


 

an email from mike 7/31/2003

Mike sent this too me about a week ago. I just got it today. I feel dumb because, I have seen him since he sent it and I didn't even know about it.


Dear Kali,

I can't hide this any longer. I love you. There, I said it. Maybe it's wrong, but, why does it feel so right? You are everything I've always looked for in a woman. You are smart, beautiful, funny, sensitive, mysterious and you are so great to be around. You listen and you care. God, I love you so much Kali. I feel like that is wrong. What am I supposed to do. Sometimes, it hurts my heart to be around you, yet, I can't stay away. Why can't I be a few years younger, or, you a few years older? Is our age difference that much different that we can't be together?

Sometimes I feel like you might feel the same way about me, and other times, I get the impression that you just want to be friends. It is really confusing, Kali. I do understand that it is hard for you. I will wait as long as it takes. I'm not going anywhere...unless you ask me too.

I feel like I have known you forever, though, we haven't even known eachother a year. I remember the first day we met. You were so cute as you were reading this big text book. Actually, I thought you were older...a collage student then. You were so easy to talk to even in those first minuets. Then, when we went to the park that day...god...I think I fell in love with you right them. Isn't that crazy? I feel like you are my soul mate.

I hope this isn't scaring you Kali. I will never pressure you into anything. If friends is all we can be, well, I'll take it. It will hurt, I will admit, but, maybe one day, when you are ready, it can be something more.

Kali, how do you feel about me right now? You've never came out and really told me how you really feel about me. To you only look at me as a friend? A brother? or do you have any romantic feelings toward me? Don't worry about hurting my feelings, Kal, I just need to know.

I will probably regret sending this too you the minuet I click the send button, but, I can't hide it anymore.

Mike


Dear Mike,


Wow, I really don't know what to say. I need time to let all of this digest. i'll call you in awhile.



 

too good for me 8/4/2003

mike tried to kiss me the other night

I got really nervous and couldn't breath and ran away from him.

what's wrong with me?

I think i hurt his feelings but i can't explain what i was feeling.

sorry mike.

im too screwed up for you...you are too good for me./


Kali


 

He can sing...? 8/11/2003

I feel bad. Mike's been doing a couple of summer courses in collage. I feel bad because he's hardly ever studieing...he seems to always be here.

I learned something about him that I didn't know. THe guy can SING. I was sitting around the living room playing my guitar. He was just watching me, when, all of the sudden, he started singing! I couldn't believe it. He has such a GREAT voice. I am mad that he kept that from me! Anyway, so, I played for like five minuets as he sang...making up words as he went along. Wow.


Now, I think that we should write music together. He has a very exceptional voice. I think that we should go to old montreal and I can play guitar and he can sing...maybe I can do al ittle back up singing. wow.


I love his voice...that might just do it for me!


Anyway, my aunt has been busy gettnig ready to get back to school. The plan is still that Im not going back to school...but am just going to take the home classes. And, my aunt said that she has a friend who is going to come by a couple times a week to give me some guitar lessons, since, I think I have gone as far as I can on my own.


Haha, I love music.


Things are so good. THey are the bst they have ever been real;lhy and I'm so scared something is going to happen to make it all fall apart. I hope im not jinxing myself. Mike sitting by me watching me type and laughing at me. I don't know why he's laughing. ANyway, gotta run. Going to walk him to class.


he's blushing about the singing.


dare 8/14/2003
I am starting with the tutor tomorrow. Actually, we were going to go all summer, but, decided not too...so that I could enjoy the summer more. However, I am starting earlier and probably ending earlier. Oh well. I am not having classes EVERY DAY and only for a couple hours a day at that. Plus, the tutor is a big goof and we talk and joke around a lot...so...of actually "study" time, I don't know how MUCH therell be. I think since I've started writing in here in in paper journals, my writing has gotten a bit better. Well, i hope so, because, Ive beenself consious about that...about being so far behind everybody else my age. It makes me feel stupid sometimes, but, that's why I read so much now...because...I like to learn...about things that interest ME.

Hey, I had never known about any internet cafe's in montreal. but, there were somer ight under my knows all the time...I wonder why i never noticed them. Mike took me to one the other day while my computer was having problems. He just wanted to show meo ne, becuase, a diary here mentioned one and I was wondering what it was. It was interesting. some interesting people there, too.


I helped my aunt bring stuff to her office. She put a picture of me in her office. I didn't like the picture, though, because it was one that was too revealing so i made her take it home again. It was before a dinenr and she insisted that I dress up...Anyway, I guess it wasn't that revealing, but, for me, it was and I don't want a bunch of people seeing it. I told her that if she insisted of keeping a picture of me in her office, to take one the way I normally am-in jeans and tshirts...haha...i hate dressing up. I hate dresses too! Mike saw the only picture of me in a dress and said I should wear them more often. I hit him and told him he better make a copy of the picture because I am not a dress girl...haha, i won't be pressured into it again. Okay, maybe Im being dramatic.


Anyway...I don't know what's going on with MIke. It's wierd that we didn't talk for awhile and then all of the sudden he's in my life again.


Being with Mike makes me wonder about Dare. Thel ast I heard, he was doing well. He was off the street and going to school or something. That could have been a rumor. I wish I knew how to get ahold of him.


When I went to the Manson Consert with Mike, I did see one person who I used to "live" with...haha, if you want to use that term. Anyway, I told him where I was and told him if mike came back where he could get a hold of me. when I first moved in with my aunt, i relaly missed him, but, i guess as time went by, i got self indulgent and forgot about him. I feel bad now...i guess I got to focussed on my own life and how good things were for me now...tht i forgot that he was somewhere out there.


but what could i do? I don't even know where he is? Besides, I guess he can handle himself. He has for years. he's like a big brother...he was my protector out there. He made sure nobody messed with me and did his best to "take care of me." I don't know where i would be if it wasn't for him... I could be dead or got into bad life style to survive. anyway, i wish ic ould see him, or write to him, and just say thanks.

I wonder if he would ike mike.

I think MIke would be too...I don't know the world for it, for Dare. Haha, dare has a problem with white guys. lucky for me, he doesn't have a problem with white girls, though. actually, he doens't have a problem with them really...he just thinks that they get all the breaks in life...whichisn't true...it's just what he's seen all his life.


anyway, enough about dare...im sure he's fine. he's a survivor.


anyway, going for a walk. Im bored. maybe I will go read in the park.


kali



age shouldn't matter 8/19/2003

Im miserable. Mike isn't talking to me. He said he doesn't feel like it is right for him spending so much time with me because I am so much younger. Age shouldn't matter. It never bothred him before...now...all of the sudden...he did a 180. God, I was over the fact that he was older than me. It didn't matter to me because we got along great.

Im miserable.


Kali


going to burlington vt 8/21/2003

There's this really cool guy online that everyone should no. HIs name is Steve. He's just great. I read some of his entries on his web page, and nearly cried at the thought that there is really someone like him out there. I"ve always wondered if there was a person outt here like him.

He writes a lot about how teenagers need to travel and get out oft heir homes. haha, well, maybe I don't understand that, because, I have and do!

ACtually, I am thinking about leaving again...for a few days. I need to do some things.

Anyway, i will have to wait ont hat. I am going to Burlington, VT for a couple of days. My AUnt has a bunch of stuff she has to do and she doens't want me around for the next few days. She has some very good friends who will aprently "LOVE ME" and she wants me to stay with them in the states.


I'm sure htey will love me...


so...it will be time to put on my "Lets please everybody." I feel kind of like she is dumping on me because she just wants some space...after all, I'm not her daughter. She probably needs a break.


Maybe she's changing her mind about me. Maybe im more trouble than she's worth.


when I first moved in here, we got a long great. but lately, she's been more controling...maybe because i was spending so much time with mike. she tells me that i "HAVE" to get dressed up more often and go out. I don't like too. id rather sit at home in pajama pance and read or write or something. SHe says I'm "Depressing her."


That kind of hurt.


OH well.


ANyway, like Is aid, after I get back from burlington, IM ight leave for a few days and hook up with some old friends. I found out the other day that one of them has an apartment now with an extra room so i might stay there for a few days. we'll see. maybe Iwon't.


anyway, if I don't write in a few days it's because I'm in VT. I've never been there. I wonder if it's pretty. I heard it is.


Kali


Then I got this email from her...

 

Mon, 25 Aug 2003 08:20:14 -0700 (PDT)

SUBJECT: stuck in burlington vt...she lied to me

Can you believe this? Apparently, the real reason my AUnt sent me to VT is because she wants me to stay here for "Awhile" Apparently, she read one of my hand written journals saying that I wanted to run away again...and stay with some old friends I had...and she wanted to "get me out of here." She figuredh tat if I was someplace I didn't know, that I wouldn't leave.

I'm so angry and feel so betrayed. how could she do this too me? She was the only one I had...now I'm staying withsome strangers. Im not sure how she got permission for me to stay in the states. VT is beautiful, but, that's besides the point.

I don't kow what to do.

SOrry for putting thison you. I just needed to tell somebody. I feel like my world is crushing again. I feel so betrayed. How coulds hed o this too me...after I opened my heart to her?

Kali

PS. i just needed to tell somebody. I am crying now so I am going to go upstairs before anybody sees...

These people are rich...and rigid...yesturday, at dinner, they kept telling me "Has anyone taught you manners."

I wanted to say "no" but I thought they would be mad...

THey tried to buy me all of this stuff to make me feel better about staying with them. SCrew there shit.

im going to find a way out of here. I'm not talking to my aunt again.


Then she wrote in her diary

 

wow, it's been awhile 3/6/2004

im crashing at a girl's house. she met me the other day and made me come home to eat dinner with her. and she hasn't let me leave yet. she insisted I stay for breakfast and sleep here for a couople days. It's been a week and im still here. i'll probably leave tomorrow though. she's only in her 20's and can't afford to be feeding me. she has a big heart,though. nomrally, when ask people for money, they throw change at me...not take me home with them!

i spent 40 minuets trying to remember the password tot his. i used to love writing in here. i started reading the entrries from before i was shipped off to vt. how did things go from good to bad so quickly?

well, im not in vt anymore. I miss canada! I want to go back,but, I'm stuckin the usa until im 18. I think the border would give a 15 year old, without and adult,w ithout money, ID, prove of citizenship, a car...some problems. so, until im legal here, i am stuck here.

i'm surviving though. im trying to think of it as an adventure. i wtached televisionf or the first time in 5 months last night! this is my first time on a computer in...since I left that bitch's house in VT!

anyway, not sure when I will be able to get online again. it might be a long time. i have more important things to seek out.

thanks for the notes and the concern. im not sure if anybody even remembers me, but, i flet kind of loved when i came and read notes.

i hope i didn't worry anybody. i haven't been online. It's sucha long story.

kali


i'm leaving now 3/9/2004

the girl i stayed with all week was so nice to me. She gave me her number and said if I ever need anything to come back. She didn't want me to go...felt it was unsafe for me to go back to how I was living. I explained that i've been doing it for a few years now...minus the time i was with my aunt. She was nice, though.

SHe's at school now. I just left her a note thanking her for her friendship, warm bath, and food. Now, im out of here.

You meet people along the way in life. SHe was just anoter one of those people.

Im not sure where im going to head too next. I have about 20 bucks that she INSISTED that I take.

Well, I litterally have my sweater on, my back pack packed, and I am heading out the door.

I'll try to come back here sometimes within the next few months or so too say im okay.

It's nice out. Soon, I Won't have to worry about it being freezing outside and freezing to death! haha.

until next time,

Kali


hmm chinese food 3/16/2004

It's cold in New York today. I've been in NY for about a month. I went here with a couple of people that I met in Burlington. NY, well, lets just say that it's not as great as everyone said it is. I imagined it to be some great and magical city...but, I think MOntreal is better.

I'm at this guys apartment for the night. I met him at this little soup shop that I go too becuase it's so so cheap.

SO,we just smoked a bowl together. Then, he said he had to go out for a minuet, so I asked if I could use his compuoter. I'm going to try to write in here every coupole weeks or at least once a month, providing I can. It will be something to look back on when this situation is worked out.

I haven't told the guy much about myself. He's pretty handsome, though. I think that he said he was 28. He's an artist, too. But, isn't NY where all the artists go, so, I can't be suprised.

Not sure where I'm staying tonight. He said that I can crash on his couch, but, I'm wondering if he met bed.

I also met another girl who I stayed at a couple nights. THere is also a teen cetner for people to stay. I always find places to stay. People are friendly here, and seem to want to help. One night, I slept in an all night coffee shop. The ownder didn't give me any problems which was cool.

OKay, well, Keith is back. I think we are watching a movie or something and he brough home chinese. yum. Okay. Later. I'll try to get back here whenver I have the opportunity.


 

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