|EQI.org Home |
* under construction...
Reading Goleman's book again....
When I first read Daniel Goleman's book in 1995, the year it came out and became an international best seller, I had not yet begun my work in teen suicide prevention.
Now I have been reading some of the book again, and I am seeing it with new eyes and a heavier heart. I have learned so much about society, and particularly the American and British cultures by listening to the real life stories of teenagers in extreme emotional pain.
I feel almost overwhelmed with pain myself now when I re-read Goleman's words. I am not ready to express myself completely yet - not without swearing and labeling him. Even using the most foul language will never express my pain from what he has done in influencing, or perhaps better said, manipulating, millions of minds around the world.
I used the word "perhaps" intentionally so I could call attention to just one of the many painful things I have encountered when re-reading his book.
I have read sections of his book several times before, but this time I am reading it more closely, with more experience and with more knowledge, and I am noticing things I have never noticed before, yet were there all along. His use of the word "perhaps" is one of those things I have noticed in the past few days.
One of the basic problems I see with his book, and I am putting this very mildly now compared to my strong feelings about it, is how he.. how shall I say this? How he mixes science with subjectivity... or science with his own values and beliefs, or that of his culture. I am not yet sure how to word this but I feel a need to write something now to let out some of my pain.
But getting back to the way he writes, mixing science with what is clearly not scientific...
Annie Murphy Paul said this about his book when she reviewed it.
And now I am seeing this even more clearly.
Goleman wants us to believe that his book is a product of science, and that it represents truth, objectively observed, studied and measured. Yet his book, nearly every page literally, is littered with non-scientific, subjective and often judgmental messages. Sometimes these messages are subtle, or we might say insiduous. As my partner said, he tries to direct our emotions with his writing. And I must admit, he does it smoothely, skillfully and superbly. He is an excellent writer, or at least that is what many would say. But what do we mean by an excellent writer? Do we mean someone who speaks the truth, or simply someone who is able to get the resuts he wants from his writing? Someone who is skilled with the use of words to manipuate or persuade or convince? Do we mean someone who is able to capture our attention and draw us in emotionally, and who sets us up to swallow whatever is being said, without critically filtering it for truth or even consistency?
I believe Goleman is guilty of some kind of a crime -- not a legal crime in the usual sense, but some kind of crime against humanity.
I am near tears now at the thought that I have written about how invalidating a sensitive child is a crime against inhumanity, and this is exactly what Goleman does with his book. But he is not just guilty of invalidating one or two sensitive children, instead he invalidates them en masse.
He very clearly leads his readers to believe that sensitive children, the ones who later may become sucidal teens if their emotional needs are not met, have something wrong with them, and they need to be "corrected" and changed so they will become happy, successful, productive, compliant (obedient) citizens.
I think of my question, years ago, for Daniel. The question was, "How would you define an emotionally intelligent soldier." Of course he never answered that question, and he never will. He will never have to defend his hugely popular book. He will never have to answer any questions to any kind of "authority." He has gotten away with his crime, much as George Bush has gotten away with what he has done, and as have so many others. Daniel Goleman will die a financially wealthy person - I have little doubt of that, as will George Bush. Goleman will keep a large degree of his social status. It is very unlikely that he will ever be exposed.
I sincerely believe that I have done the most to expose him as has anyone. Yet it was not enough. His reputation was hardly scathed. He is still taken seriously by most who hear his name.
It is painful for me to accept this. Painful for me to read his words and try to answer the question that keeps coming back to me as I read his writing. That question is, "How can anyone take this seriously as science?"
I suspect, and hope with all my heart, that history will prove that Goleman's book was a fraud. But I imagine I will not live to see this. I suspect it will take several generations before people can look back in shock and even horror at how highly sensitive, highly emotionally intelligent children were treated in this epoch of human evolution.
For now I will just show you two things I have found in the past few days. One is the list of his use of the word perhaps. I plan to edit it later to highlight the way he uses it unscientifically, but for now here is the raw list. I trust you will quickly see for yourselves what I am talking about, even though the list hasn't been edited yet. I believe it is safe to say that the vast majority of the uses support
Here is that list....
Respect | Empathy
Search EQI.org | Support EQI.org
timid, fearful, sensitive
|Those parents who engineer gradual
emboldening experiences for their children offer them
what may be a lifelong corrective to their fearfulness.
|Directing our emotions
The encouraging thing is...
Obedience "insisting on obedience"
|I feel encouraged to have found this criticism.. I
feel less alone, more supported. It is by Linda Elder..
here is the link..
|here is a table of criticism I am working on. It gives specific examples from his book.|
|In his footnotes his says this at one point: "The dramatic flourishes are my own." Chapter 8, note 1. I suggest it would be more honest to say that about the entire book. I would also add "The subjective, judgmental comments and interpretations are also my own, based on my own values, beliefs and cultural upbringing... and on what I thought would help sell more books."|