Unintentional Emotional Abuse

The other day someone told me that their father had tried to kill himself when she was a teenager. I realized that this caused her serious emotional damage, yet it was unintentional. I am sure there are many other ways parents unintentionally damage their children and teenagers, but this is the example which caused me to come up with this term.

Victim of Unintentional Emotional Abuse

When I was born, a lot of things were going on with my parents (I will not specify), but they were very stressed and depressed, and often said things to me like "You're a horrible person", "I wish you had never been born", and "I hate you."

This went on from the time I was born to the time when I was about 10, and it still goes on occasionally.

I have grown up a very bitter person, probably that I took from my parents. I've never been happy, I'm always complaining, I'm rude, the list goes on.

I have been struggling to change this stuff about myself, because I feel trapped. I don't want to do it, but it's pretty much ingrained in me. Is this my fault?

I'm having such a hard time changing it. Like running a 100 mile race, I've probably done about 20 miles now. Yes, an improvement, but people still don't want to talk to me, because I'm a horrible person.

I just wanted to let that out.

from http://www.golivewire.com/forums/peer-niieys-support-a.html

did u ever get that feeling u have accomplished something and then Ur parents turn u down thats what is happening to me
i am a first child but least favorite to both my parents

do u believe my parents want me to fail in everything ?what am i supposed to do if have a problem solve it urself they say while my sister is treated like crystal?

but i guess after a while u become deaf to what is said as if it wasnt said and u become independent a little insecure but if Ur friends with people who care and have found someone to love u just the way u r then u will find that the world doesnt stop at Ur parents