It all started when I learned the English expression "to push one's buttons."

Why do other people know how to push our emotional buttons when we ourselves don't even know what they are? And if other people can push our buttons, shouldn't we be able to push them too?

This curiosity about emotional buttons focused my attention on emotions. This
same curiosity started my journey....

I will probably write a book review for you and use this quote. In
fact, could you send me some more text or the book itself when it
comes out for a full review? So far it looks very good. I am very
curious now and I not only want to work with you, but I want to help
you promote the book. I have this very odd characteristic or need.. I
like helping people!

Ok, I just wanted to mention these things to you.... and say that one of
my big complaints about Goleman and others is they focus way too much
on controlling emotions. It is much more important to focus on
understanding them. I have written:

"what if we had understanders instead of judges" (link)

I think you will "understand this" without needing an explanation!

but to me, this idea can change all of modern society.

society has been about control for so long. maybe we are really on the
edge of something huge.

s.