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SFTU = Seek first to understand (then to be understood)

STFU = Shut the F*__ Up



One day I was making notes so I wouldn't forget something. I wrote "Didn't listen well to Dave. Didn't SFTU." Then I thought "those letters look very familiar." Then I realized they were the same letters as "STFU" .

The two acronyms offered a powerful, symbolic contrast to the way humans can relate to each other in the world. Sadly, I am afraid we see many more examples of STFU than SFTU.

S. Hein
April 17, 2012
Thung Song,


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I credit Stephen Covey for teaching me about the Seek First to Understand principle.