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Sophie Lancaster
http://www.myspace.com/inmemoryofsophie http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sophie_Lancaster -- There is much more on the net about Sophie. It depresses me too much to think about it and keep reading about it. But now you know a little. If you can handle it, and you care, you can do your own searches on Google and YouTube for example. My summary is that England is a very fucked up society. They had too much influence on the USA for too long. This reminds me of the Salem Witch Trials. It hurts me to realize how fucked up the place is where I lived for about 40 years. It caused me a lot of damage. England and the USA are no places for intelligent, sensitive people. If you feel depressed and suicidal and if you live in one of those countries, I urge you to get out as soon as you can. Start the healing process. If you are intelligent, sensitive and care enough to read this page, you have been damaged. Sorry if I am the first one to have to tell you this, but even though I don't know you, if you are reading this and you feel something about what happened to Sophie, then I know that you are too sensitive for the society you have been trying to survive in. And you are too intelligent.You don't believe all the lies they have tried to make you believe. You don't believe its okay to kill people. Killing hurts you. You feel pain when you see what is happening around you. But you aren't getting enough support because the majority of the people around you just think you are weird, strange, crazy etc. But you aren't. It has taken me a long time to see how fucked up things really are. But I see it more clearly each day and with each new country I visit. The people who call themselves Christians have done tremendous damage to us. They killed millions of people in the process of imposing their dysfunctional, destructive beliefs on us. The Jews, the Christians and the Muslims share very similar beliefs. If you live in an English speaking country, or you live in Europe, Israel or a Muslim controlled country, then you have been damaged by these beliefs. I really am sorry to tell you this. But it could save your life. It could save your life because you might realize before it is too late that you aren't crazy. Instead, you have just been born into the wrong culture and subculture. It takes a long time to unlearn the unhealthy things we have been taught by the adults who had control over us for the first 18 or more years (more than 18 if you are in or have gone to a university since the people in the university have control over you through their exams and diplomas). I want to thank the person who told me about Sophie. She knows who she is. She is 18 and lives in Romania. She used to dress like a "goth" herself. She knew I would care so she and her friend sent me a text one day and asked me to put something on my site about Sophie. I feel honored that they thought of me and I feel touched that they knew me well enough to know I would care. As one of them said, they knew that I supported the goth culture. And I do. Around the world when I want someone to help me with something as important as a teenager's life, I ask someone who is dressed in black or who has their hair in dreadlocks to help me and I am rarely disappointed. I have learned that these are intelligent young people who care and who have done enough thinking to avoid the mind prison of conformity. When i meet someone like Sophie (although I never met her and now will never have the chance to), I feel less alone. I feel more understood. I feel encouraged that there are young people who think, not just memorize and repeat in order to get what are called "good" grades so they can become part of the status quo. I was having a discussion about caring and control with someone here in Budapest the other day. We were talking about caring and control. I said I believe societies that try to control everyone don't work in the long run. We see this with the USA and England. England is one of the most controlling cultures in the world. They even want to control emotions by saying what is polite, rude, appropriate, inappropriate, proper etc. But obviously their attempts at control, mostly thru punishment, didn't work to stop the murder of Sophie. But what if there had been someone there who cared just a little more about human feelings and human life? England and the USA are creating monsters. If you live in one of those countries, I am begging you to get out of there as soon as you can. It is very unlikely you won't change the culture. It will instead change you, probably it will destroy you. The only exception I can think of is that if you have a lot of emotional support around you. But if you feel alone and outnumbered, then please just walk away and start your search for a new, healthier culture. Or try to help create one. I don't have much hope for either England or the USA really. England now is going to keep teenagers under state control even longer by raising the age teens have to stay in school to 18. Intelligent sensitive people won't last 18 years. They don't even last 16 years. At least not the ones I have known from England and the USA. By the time they reach 16 they have been damaged, probably for life. At 13, 14 and 15 they are still caring, optimistic and idealistic. But each year they stay in the system and get beaten down and conditioned like circus animals, it gets worse. Punishment and reward. That is basically what the entire "education" and parenting system comes down to. You get rewarded for doing what they want you to do. You get punished, rejected or disapproved of if you don't. Sophie tried to be different. She tried to be herself. And she was murdered because of that. Here in Eastern Europe I see so many people who want to move to England or America. I can't convince them how unhealthy those cultures are. I have spoken to high school and university students but most of what I have to say falls on deaf ears, especially by the time someone has obeyed and conformed their way as far as the university. Most university students believe it is necessary to force children to go to school, for example. It is rare to find anyone anywhere who doesn't believe this. This is what the majority of people believe. Just like the majority of people in England and America still believe in "God." It depresses me. I have lost one more potential friend now. I have no doubt that I would have liked spending with Sophie and her boyfriend. Now he has lost her forever. I know how much it hurts to feel alone. With Sophie in his life this pain was healed. Now he will always feel the pain of her loss. It won't be surprising if he later kills himself. I suspect he and Sophie both felt suicidal as teens. In all cultures it seems, but in some more than others, being different is painful. In England they are killing and attacking goths. In America they are killing and attacking Iraqis. Both the Americans and the British need someone to be against, someone to hate. Maybe one day they will teach us how to love, accept, understand and care about each other during our 12 or so years of forced "education." Maybe. Maybe laws will change. Everything depends on laws now (not on love.) If you want to help me make the world a more loving place, please write me. S. Hein
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