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A Mother and
Her Teen Daughter
Letting the other person do the talking helps in family situations as well as in business. Barbara Wilson's relationship with her daughter, Laurie, was deteriorating rapidly. Laurie, who had been a quiet, complacent child, had grown into an uncooperative, sometimes belligerent teenager. Mrs. Wilson lectured her, threatened her and punished her, but all to no avail.
"One day," said Mrs.
Wilson, "I just gave up. Laurie had disobeyed me and
had left the house to visit her girl friend before she
had completed her chores. When she returned I was about
to scream at her for the ten-thousandth time, but I just
didn't have the strength to do it. I just looked at her
and said sadly, 'Why, Laurie, Why?'
I began to realize that she needed
me - not as a bossy mother, but as a confidante, an
outlet for all her confusion about growing up. And all I
had been doing was talking when I should have been
listening. I never heard her.
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