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I started collecting these around 1995. Steve Inspiring Quotes about Freedom etc Inspiring Quotes about Civil Disobedience
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for feeedom don't become university professors (or
mainstream teachers) - S.Hein Other EQI.org Topics: Emotional
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is to bear the responsibility of acting and to act is to
engage in reshaping society. - David Easton, US political
scientist (I saw this in the book "To Cry Inside" about Lesley Martin who was sent to jail for trying to help her mother commit euthanasia) Religion, therefore, as I shall ask you arbitrarily to take it, shall mean for us the feelings, acts and experiences of individual men in their solitude, so far as they apprehend themselves to stand in relation to whatever they consider the divine. -- Religion is a concern with primal truth. §§§§ The higher power is somehow contiguous with oneself, "more of the same quality"
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in the minority A minority is in a very awkward position. The individuals in it can't afford to be just as good as the individuals in the majority. If they hope to convert the majority they have to be much better; and the smaller the minority, the better they have to be. They have to think better. They have to know more. They have to write better. They have to have handle controversy better. Above all, they have to have far more courage. And they have to be infinitely patient. (Unknown) -- Sometimes the majority only means that all the fools are on the same side." Unknown |
| An uncommon man
Unfortunately, I can't say this is what it means to be an American anymore. That is one reason I left. Also, I would begin by saying it is my need to be uncommon, and end by saying all this is what it means to be free. - Steve Roy Parke, Founder of Parkesdale Farms, Plant City, Florida -- |
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| Phil Donahue I realize what you can do when you scare the population and how media contributes to that |
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about feelings John Mayer and Peter Salovey "Emotions prioritize thinking by directing us to important information."
-- Peter Block (Author of Flawless Consulting, a highly acclaimed book on business consulting.) "Stating your own feeling is being authentic and acts to encourage a like response from others." (p. 136) -- Nathaniel Branden When we experience our unwanted feelings, they pass out of us and diminish naturally. With wanted feelings the opposite occurs: they grow within us to strengthen us. (From his tape, Honoring the Self) ** Emotionally mature people realize that others do not exist to meet their needs. (HTS tape) ** When you repress feelings you deny yourself access to key data. (From another tape) ** From Branden's The Psychology of Romantic Love In denying feelings, in nullifying his of her judgements and evaluations, in repudiating his of her experience, the child has learned to disown parts of the self, of the personality. The child begins life in a natural state, in contact with his of her organism. And then a conflict is set up: the child is taught that certain feelings of emotions are unacceptable. But they are felt. The child produces a solution: unconsciousness. (p. 143) If we are free to know honestly what we feel and to experience it (not merely to acknowledge it verbally), then we can decide with whom and in what context it is appropriate to share our inner life. But if we ourselves do not know, if we are forbidden to know, if we are afraid to know, if we ourselves have never encountered who we are, if we are self-alienated, then we are crippled and incapacitated for genuine intimacy, which means that we are crippled and incapacitated for romantic love. (p. 144) We want our emotions to be taken seriously, to be respected. (146) The acceptance of our own feelings is the foundation of our acceptance of the feelings of others. (147) If communication is to be successful, if love is to be successful, if relationships are to be successful, we must give up the absurd notion that there is something heroic or strong about lying, about faking what we feel, about misrepresenting, by commission or omission, the reality of our experience of the truth of our being. We must learn that if heroism and strength mean anything, it is the willingness to face reality, to face truth, to respect facts, to accept that that which is, is. (148) -- Mildred Newman and Bernard Berkowitz (Psychologists and authors. Page numbers are from their book, How to Be Your Own Best Friend) On Taking Responsibility for Our Feelings To take responsibility for our lives means making a profound change in the way we approach everything. We do everything we can to avoid this change, this responsibility. We would much rather blame someone or something for making us feel unhappy than take the steps to make us feel better. We even talk about our own feelings as if they were visitors from outer space. We say, "This feeling came over me," as if we were helpless creatures overwhelmed by mysterious forces, instead of simply saying, "I felt that way." We speak as if our feelings change from sunny to stormy like the weather, over which we have no control. This meteorological view of our emotions is very useful; it takes us off the hook for the way we feel. We diminish ourselves, just in order to push away the chance of choice. You must be able to see the ways you are pulling yourself down and decide that isn't what you want to do. (pp 25-26) On Approval Seeking It is up to us to give ourselves recognition. If we wait for it to come from others, we feel resentful when it doesn't, and when it does, we may well reject it. It is not what others say to us that counts. We all love praise, but have you ever noticed how quickly the glow from a compliment wears off? When we compliment ourselves, the glow stays with us. It is still good to hear it from others, but it doesn't matter so much if we have already heard it from ourselves. This is the tragedy of some marvelous performers, who need endless applause to tell them how great they are, but who feel a chill as soon as they enter their dressing rooms. They have never heard it from themselves. (pp 28-29) -- "The Makings of a Country Lawyer", Gerry Spence
"How do you feel" was the key to the epiphany. p 387 "The idea of the group was simple and right: to become a person, one had to first become acquainted with oneself, and that required one to become aware of one's feelings. And after that, to become a person, one had to develop the elusive skill of sharing one's feelings with others. When the notion of those simple propositions sank through, it struck me like salvation staggers the born-again." Before that Spence said he fought back his feelings. "Feelings caused pain. Feelings were dangerous, the enemy in fact." -- Links to order the books tapes cited above: Salovey- Emotional Development and EI: Educational Implications Branden- Honoring the Self -Book Branden - Honorinig the Self Tape This tape set (of 6) is probably the single best set of tapes I have ever listened to. Evidently, this one is only available from the author. |
| Workaholics The workaholic is driven to work long hours by internal needs and literally cannot turn it off. They make lousy bosses, aren't team players, alienate their spouses, and aren't involved with their children. You can find workaholics in every industry and at every level of an organization. The typical workaholic used to be a man, but the problem has become more common among women, even in those that do not work outside of the home. The workaholic should not be confused with the hard worker. Hard workers sprint at the office, producing fabulous results, and then go enjoy social time with family, friends and hobbies. They know how to enjoy life. Byron Stock From http://www.byronstock.com/newsletter.html You Can Never Get Enough of a Substitute I am not sure where I first heard this, but it makes a lot of sense to me. |
| From Steve Hein Emotional support prevents depression. Feelings Predict behavior. Emotions unite us. Beliefs divide us. Accepting responsibility releases resentment. Feeling empathy and feeling defensive are mutually exclusive. Peacekeepers don't kill. Psychologists don't give hugs. You don't have to have a PhD to care. You don't have to have a PhD to care about someone. You don't have to have a PhD to cry. Emotionally intelligent leaders set emotionally intelligent goals. It is possible to have a lot of experince without having a lot of understanding. (Aug 7, 2011) We must make killing, death, destruction and revenge unpopular. (See article about bin Laden) S. Hein |
| "As
paradoxical as it may appear, listening to the heart, as
opposed to rationalizing, is in fact what constitutes
true thinking. The academics of this world do not like to
admit it, but the truth of the matter is that all
so-called 'great minds' act upon feeling. Irrespective of
whether it is a new invention, a remarkable discovery in
science, a musical composition or a great work of art,
the creativity that has led to such works has its origin
in feeling. Only once that feeling has been translated
into a mental vision of what can be, does the inventor,
scientist, composer or artist use the rational mind to
work out the practicalities involved in materialising his
vision." - Theun Mares -- I am not an Athenian or a Greek, but a citizen of the world - Socrates -- "The world is my country, all mankind are my brethren, and to do good is my religion." Thomas Paine http://www.secularhumanism.org/index.php?page=paine§ion=hall_of_fame |
I am proud to say I am the only one on google who came up with this! lol
There are lots of "Holy Shiite Muslims" and lots more of "Holy fucking shit" but only yours truly has put the two together. I used this in a convo today when i was talking to jen aobut ocean getting out of teen prison and going to england:
me: what is this about weds?? is she serious!
shes gonna be in fucking england this week????????????
jjl: i know! short notice lol
me: holy fucking shi-ite muslims
jjl: lol
me: u didnt know i said that?
jjl: no
me: lol
yep
for a long time ...funny what u find out about a person after talking to them for a year eh?
jjl: yep.. lol..
Steve Hein
June