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This is from my journal on July 10
Telling someone, "because
those are the rules" is an abuse of power.
Saying When you are 18 you can do what you
want is an abuse of power.
Saying or implying When you are living in my house
you will follow my rules is an abuse of power.
She (Nathaliie) wanted an explanation. (why she couldnt go
to plaza artigas)
"I am opposed to anything that will stop her
progress." (what the father kept saying)
Nathaly, Im not stupid.
You think that I dont know anything, but I have
seen it with my own eyes. They even are doing sex on
the street. They are doing oral sex and sex sex. I
know what happens there. Dont act like I
dont know what is happening because I do.
At one point she said I want
to go there because you wont let me. And she
At one point they were both trying to talk and she was
saying "Papa, escuchame." (Papa, listen to me)
And he said, ""No, you listen." And she
gave in and let him talk.
She was out-powered, not out-reasoned.
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People with more power than you give you
power over other people. Those other people are called
The people who give you the power are the lawmakers. The
lawmakers are backed up by people who have guns and
jails, and who will use physical force on you and your
At one point he was almost stomping
his feet saying Nathaly, Nathaly, Nathaly He
was saying it in this voice that said You
dont know anything. Admit it and just accept
She couldnt see what was happening and mock him.
She didnt stomp her feet and say Papa. Papa.
He almost never looked at her. That scares me really.
Later he told me "she gets half of my love just
because she is my daughter. But the other half depends on
what she does. If she does the wrong thing she loses it
and I told her that."
I never asked him what he meant by progress.
I would like to but at this point I am just playing with
him. Acting dumb like Columbo. To get information out of
him which I can use against him to prove my case. It is
unfair because he is on a totally different level. It is
like if someone were asking me questions about physics,
or quantum physics. Or how to fly a space ship.
Giving parents power without giving them training is like
putting them inside a space ship, then blasting it off
and saying we trust you to know what to do.
I asked her what she wanted to do
and she said maybe psychology. I said "Do your
friends come to you with their problems?" She said,
"Yes I am always giving them advice."
I told her that when they trained
me to be a suicide prevention counselor they said the
most important thing was not to give advice because you
dont know the people and it is not your life and
the consequences wont be yours.
She got a little defensive and said "But after you
spend a lot of time with them you do get to know them so
you know what is best for them."
But making them dependent on you isnt what is best