Emotional Intelligence and Obedience
"Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord." (Colossians 3:20)
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|Quotes about Obedience|
"The overwhelming emphasis in schools seems to be on teaching obedience rather than responsible thinking; on fitting in and conforming rather than being independent and creative. This makes being an independent thinker extremely difficult, particularly for young people."
"The rewards for conformity are omnipresent... People are told how to think in the name of obedience. It doesn't matter if it's obedience to the state, your teachers or even your parents, the end results are the same. Those with little or no confidence in themselves, and no innovative ideas, become servants to those who give the orders."
"In the short term, corporal punishment may produce obedience. But it is a fact documented by research that in the long term the results are inability to learn, violence and rage, bullying, cruelty, inability to feel another's pain, especially that of one's own children, even drug addiction and suicide, unless there are enlightened or at least helping witnesses on hand to prevent that development."
See "Every Smack is a Humiliation" on the Alice Miller page
"'Go and play' was the most frequent expression of those who did not want to be bothered by the children. Fairy tales were used not only to enchant and amuse them, but to reduce the children to immobility, to obtain obedience with threats that otherwise the ogre might come and eat them or that the good fairy would be disgusted and would not bring them the presents they expected from her.
|Critique of a Quote about
Here is a quote from a medical doctor in the USA
This quote bothers me. It might sound good at first glance but it seems what he suggests is a child who is overly dependent on the parent's approval. This is a bond, but it is not a healthy one. I would call this an insecure attachment bond rather than a secure attachment bond. In a healthy relationship "obedience" is not really even a matter of importance. The relationship is built more on cooperation and mutual respect.
Notice also his use of the subjective word "inappropriate" - S. Hein